If there’s one thing mainstream media is lacking, it’s positivity for women. We see our most dynamic role models carefully censored and put through the wringer of double standards and “who wore it better” debates. Remember when Demi Lovato was “too fat” and developed an eating disorder? Then she was made fun of for the disorder, recovered, and then was made fun of again when she put on more weight? Taylor Swift went out jogging with lipstick and the paparazzi were quick to snap it and the tabloids laughed at her, but they forget that if she hadn’t worn lipstick they would’ve called her ugly. Nicki Minaj was called disgusting for her music video to “Anaconda”, yet when J-Lo and Iggy Azalea released “Booty” with equal amounts of nudity they got nothing but praise. Why? Because it’s all in a vain effort to achieve perfection, as if there’s such a thing as a perfect woman.
What we all forget so easily is that there really is no such thing as a “perfect woman”. Every person has flaws, inside and out. Every person has a scar or a stretch mark or hair somewhere they don’t want it. Every person has a different body shape, a different taste in fashion, different hair types – every person is so different from the other. That is what we forget as we buy a pair of size two skinny jeans and hang them up as a weight goal while we have size nine hips. That is what the 20 million women in the U.S. who suffer from eating disorders don’t realize.
Every year, billions of dollars are pumped into the beauty industry. From things as simple as mascara and eyeliner kits to skin whitening and chemical hair relaxers, it’s all marketed towards every type of woman so they can become the “perfect woman”. Dark-skinned girls are told their complexion is ugly so they stay out of the sun and put on whitening cream; black girls get weaves to make their hair straight and shiny because they’re told their natural dreadlocks are disgusting; Asians get surgery to have bigger eyes; fat girls are told they’re unhealthy just because they’re bigger and they spend tons of money on weight loss programs.
Nobody takes a moment to step back and realize these things don’t have to be used to make themselves somebody they’re not.
Why try to be somebody you’re not? Why be the person society wants you to be instead of just being your happy, healthy self?
Embrace yourself! Embrace the person you already are – all of you! Every person is a dynamic and unique individual! There will be people who do and don’t appreciate the real you – why waste your time on the people who won’t love you for who you are?
Kick back, relax, have some fun with your clothes and your makeup! There’s no need to put yourself in society’s boring box and no need to let them tell you what to do.
Never let anyone but you define yourself. You are the only one who gets to decide what you are and are not. Your body type does not have to define your wardrobe. Other people’s opinions do not have to define how you see yourself in the mirror. Love yourself like others love you.
I hope that I can help spread this message as much as I can in whatever ways I can, especially by sharing my personal stories and styles with everyone. I plan on writing articles on many different fashion trends, fashion tips, and helpful how-to’s. With that being said, please approach this blog with an open mind. I am here to empower all types of women, and I do mean all. My ultimate goal is for all of my readers to learn to love themselves and remember the bottom line of fashion:
Dress how you want. You are beautiful.